Wednesday, May 16, 2018

What's happened to respect and common courtesy?

Does this look familiar?

I realize this topic has seen a lot of play over the recent years, yet nothing seems to be getting done to change things. Why? I admit, I am totally baffled.

Yet I'm not. Exactly when did parenting skills start falling apart? Isn't that really what's going on? Parenting has changed, we as adults have changed.

I found this on Facebook, believe it or not. Talk about perfect timing! But it says it all for the most part. Do you agree?

My parents, especially my mother was pretty strict. When I had kids, I was fairly strict. My daughter is fairly strict. My sons not so much. The difference being that I was harder on my daughter because she was a girl. I didn't want her to make the mistakes I did.

Now I'm not saying my sons are super lenient, they are not. But they give more leeway with their children than my daughter does. I will tell you that her children are well behaved and know respect and common sense is no stranger to them. Yet, I can say the same about my two sons children. (My oldest son hasn't helped to rear his children as he is in prison, so the kudos go to his ex-wife for how their children were raised. My son's opinions were heard and he would talk to his kids and tell them to behave and listen to their mom.)

The truth remains however that many of today's parents have made themselves less parent and more their child's/children's friend. (I tried that myself when my kids were teens, not such a good idea. You aren't really their friend...that only goes a little way.) Parents are losing their kids because they aren't enforcing rules and chores, then giving-in to their kids way too often. Kids are learning something very wrong: there aren't any consequences for their actions. 

And then...there's the parents behaviors. Children emulate their parent's behavior. It's sad to say but there are a lot of parents out there that behave as if they are still children themselves. There is no respect, no courtesy, no decency to others and guess what folks...we have children that have the exact same regard that their parents do for others: none.

What a legacy we are leaving behind! Children that have lost their ability to be empathetic and compassionate to others. These kids seem to me to be colder, angrier. Lost.

**Please note: don't think I am saying all kids and all parent's are this way...because I know that this isn't so. I use the terms "parents" and "children" loosely, and I am covering a few generations as well.

Okay...I think this is where I will end this. I want people to think about what I have said and come to their own conclusions. As well, people need to get together and talk where ever it's possible.

Have a great day!


Thursday, May 10, 2018

People sure are strange!

View from my desk of the outside
I sit here giggling...with an image in my mind of what I must look know those old ladies that sit near their windows and know the comings and goings of people in their neighborhood? Yes? Well...

Although I'm not that old, that's me!!!  LOL 

My desk sits to the right of the window above which gives me a view of who is coming and going from 4 of the buildings here, including from the other 3 apartments in my own building. 

See, I am a bonified people watcher. Always have been and always will be. 

I've seen a few things while the blinds are open but nothing that baffles me more than the fellow that lives upstairs. It's like he's a window watcher too. I have noticed time and again in the past week that when certain people pull in, he's out the door like a flash and attempting to casually walk up the sidewalk like he has nothing better to do. Being nonchalant doesn't suit him.

I have watched him since I moved in. I feel that there is something 'off' about him. I can't tell you what it might be or even why I feel this way about him. I don't know if it's his looks or the way he carries himself, but I did guess one thing right about him: he's ex-military. (He handed my son a business card and I followed up by checking this guy out. All in the details!)

Anyways, back to his walking out to the people that pull in... 

He seems to be drawn to women specifically that visit or live in the next building. His tactic is to start talking to the women and then after a few minutes, he asks for a cigarette. Their conversation might last a couple of minutes to 10 minutes. Then he returns to his apartment where his wife and 2 little girl are. 

It sure is a confusing routine. It's not like he's out there handing out business cards or even talking business. The way their body language speaks, it seems to be lighthearted to some degree. I see the women and the neighbor both laughing. 

Just strange behavior. I wonder and try to guess what might be being said, wonder what his motive might be beyond wanting to bum a smoke, but of course I can't figure it out. I also know that it's really none of my business. People watchers just like to watch and wonder, you know?

Are you a people watcher? If not, try it some time! 

Thanks for stopping by!


Sunday, April 29, 2018

April 2018 in photos (Photo essay)

The upside of Spring's arrival, however fleeting, is that the snow clouds disperse and we start seeing more of the wispy clouds which I love. On this day, I was able to get 3 shots, as the afternoon slid into disk.

You can see a sliver of the moon.

Contrails...'X'must be the spot!

Sun has slowly moved toward setting.
While I was out that afternoon, I shot the next two photos:

Not sure what these are but there was a patch I found.

Not sure what these husks were that were tangled in the bush.
The next image I think is rather unique. I was in the kitchen and noticed the lace sheer that covers the kitchen window was creating a shadow on the floor.

The sheer has rose-like flowers that spread across the floor.

Yesterday afternoon, it suddenly clouded over and got really dark. I opened the shades and caught these images:

The wind had picked up and the temperature dropped.

The clouds actually looked more like snow clouds. We 
got a few sprinkles of rain out of all that.

A couple of hours later, I noticed the sunset out of the bathroom window:

These two photos had no filters used and are just as I shot them.

The colors within the clouds was neat.
More photos will follow as we progress into Spring and Summer. 

In the meantime, take care and thanks for stopping by!


Saturday, April 14, 2018

Secondhand Marijuana smoke

Okay folks, I admit it...I am square. I don't like the smell of pot. Period.

I've been this way since I was 18 and nothing's changed since. When I left my last pot-smoking boyfriend, I had high hopes I would not smell that stuff ever again. Boy...was I wrong.

When my son and I moved into this apartment last October, the fun began. The people who live across the hall from us, a fellow probably in his late 20s or early 30s and a couple of young gals who I would be inclined to think/hope were in their late teens or early 20s really seem to like to puff their days away. Constantly. 

If we walk out our apartment door we plow into an unseen cloud of pot smoke that about chokes us to death. I am being dead serious here. It's horrible and it even seeps in under our door and into our apartment at times. Ticks me off.

I know you are thinking that I should report them. I the office that manages this place. They served the people across the hall with a warning. Ha! That lasted maybe a week. I called to complain again that it was still going on and they asked me to call the police. I did and the female officer I talked to said she could come out but it was up to management to evict these people not the police.

I talked to my son and daughter about it and they were seriously concerned about repercussions. See--they know that there are some pretty freaky looking people that have come and gone from that apartment...none of which I would trust. My son reminded me that I would have to open the apartment door to make and sign the complaint, thus letting the neighbors know that I was the one that blew them in. So I haven't done anything but mulled this over in my head.

We found out about a week ago that someone (but not me) had turned them into child abuse. Good! I have complained about the fact my grandchildren are in and out of here a couple times a week, all under the age of 16. Above us, there are two little about 19 months and the other about 9 months old. Those babies certainly don't need to be breathing that crap! Unbelievable!

So as it stands...we're just waiting. I am not sure what comes next. Maybe I will just royally blow a gasket and confront these inconsiderate idiots. 

Take care and don't breathe too deep! LOL


Getting to know myself

If you'd asked me a few years ago if I could stand being by myself, I probably would have replied "No". In fact, I have never in all my adult years lived by myself or at least spent most of my time alone. I've always had someone there, a husband/significant other or other family member, so I was never really  alone. Since moving here, I have learned to enjoy the alone time...even for days at a time. 

I have gone through stages though to get to this point. The first stage was a deep loneliness, and with it came a round of depression almost as deep. The next stage was one of keeping myself busy with making my crochet items for my shop on Etsy. If I kept my mind and hands busy I couldn't think. The next stage I really began to enjoy the quiet and the ease of not having anyone to be here with me. I could do what I wanted, when I wanted and how I wanted. Pretty sad to come to this point as a 59 year old woman! LOL

In all honesty, I am glad that I have come to this point in my life. I am learning to deal with my depression and PTSD by myself, and don't always need to have someone to talk to about it. I've also stopped crying over little things. I had gotten to the point that just trivial things sent me into tears. That's now gone. At least for now. With depression and PTSD you never know.

I don't mind being single again, less stress and aggravation in the long run. I'm not a man hater or anything like that, I just have a very bad habit of choosing the wrong kind of men for me. At this time, I am just better off alone. 

Thanks for stopping by and have a great weekend!


Thursday, March 29, 2018

My New Favorite Meal: Chicken Marsala

Dinner is served

For those of you in the USA, I don't know if you've become familiar with Campbell's new products called: Campbell's Skillet Sauces. So far they have 4 choices to choose from and the one that I was introduced to was Chicken Marsala pictured below.

I was able to be there when it was being fixed by my daughter the first time I tried it. She told me that with your chicken breasts, you need to slice them in half width-wise, so you end up with twice as many pieces of chicken breasts. Below, here are the 2 chicken breasts that I sliced in half to get the 4 pieces. This way, the meat cooks quicker. Makes sense.

I used a large 12 inch skillet with 2 tablespoons of vegetable oil. (For some reason olive oil is bothering me.) I fried these until they were light brown on either side, making sure that they were cooked through. 

Then came the sauce. Because I wanted to have another serving for dinner tomorrow night and save the rest to freeze, I used 2 pouches of the Skillet sauce. As well, although there are mushrooms in the sauce already and because I love mushrooms, (my body will thank me for tonight's dinner! LOL) I used 2 small cans of mushroom stems and pieces as shown below.

So now, we have the chicken and sauce all put together and ready to simmer for a little bit, maybe 20 minutes or so, although the pouch says 5 minutes. I am really fussy about my meats being thoroughly cooked so I went beyond the 5 minutes until I felt satisfied the meat was done.

While the chicken and sauce simmered, I cooked gluten free Fettuccine.  Just enough to give me 2 meals. Once done, then it was time to serve myself, and as you can see above and below, dinner was served! (It doesn't matter what kind of pasta you use: bows, penne, you decide!)


Now who wouldn't want this for dinner? 

Enjoy your evening folks! Thanks for stopping by!